Memories of a Champagne Gown and a French romance

Marriage.

What a simple two-syllable word that already holds such a heavy, happy weight in my heart.

Married.

Married.

I don’t have any professional pictures or the video back yet, so I am going to only post a few pictures to give a brief overview.

This day was heavy and thick with emotion and in the future, I’ll blog about moments in-depth (such as opening my wedding gift from Mr. Speedy or finding out my little brother was wearing my veil and taking selfies).

The 1920’s theme turned out amazing! It was blast to see how everything came together.

I will say, my absolute most favorite part of that entire day, was saying my vows.

I really thought it was going to be when I first saw and locked eyes with Mr. Speedy while walking down the aisle… but saying my vows was the most surreal moment I have ever had in my short life. I’ll never forget the look of pure happiness and committment and love on his face.

And apparently (I do not remember this), I jumped up and down a little out of excitement in the middle of this process. Megan and Brittany, do you recall?

Vows.

Vows.

Favorite moment.

Favorite moment.

Married!

Married!

From there, the rest was a blur but a lot of fun and LET ME JUST SAY-

Having a big wedding is worth it for the fact that you are surrounded by a group of people who would probably never be together in the same room and there is such an overwhelming feeling of support and happiness, it makes it worth every single penny. After the vows, the best part was spending time and seeing people from near and far!

These kids were the best. I am so happy they were a part of the wedding.

These kids were the best. I am so happy they were a part of the wedding.

My wedding gift from Mr. Speedy was a beautiful pearl and crystal back drape necklace.

I am only going to wear backless gowns now.

I am only going to wear backless gowns now.

It matched perfectly and was simply stunning. If you really want one, you can get order one from BHLDN from here. And then we can be twins.

HONEYMOON-

So when did I find out where I was going???

While signing our marriage license with the Priest, best man, and maid of honor someone let the secret out.

The Priest.

Of all people, he simply says to me, “So, I heard you are going to Paris. That’ll be quite a trip.”

Mr. Speedy’s face was shocked. I think he felt somewhat betrayed by the man that just married us.

So the next morning, straight from the hotel, we flew to Paris. PARIS.
PARIS.
PARIS.
PARISSSSSSSS.

This is probably the most selfless trip Mr. Speedy could have planned. My undergraduate degree was in Art History and impressionism is my favorite, but I have never been to Paris. Mr. Speedy planned this entire honeymoon around my love of art.

Each morning, I’d ask him – “What do you want to do today?”
“I want to see you smile and happy.”
And then I usually would have an internal debate on exploring Paris or staying locked away in our honeymoon nest of hotel room and come up for air hours, days later.
What is a girl to do with a response like that?

Louvre!

Louvre!

I made an amazing discovery on this trip. Mr. Speedy is completely capable of looking at art for hours, but only if you feed him a beer or two every other hour or so. This kept him sustained to see and observe art in an enjoyable matter.
When I missed my opportunity to get him a beer or food, this is what resulted:
Sleeping in Notre Dame. Sleeping in Notre Dame.

On the other hand, I could have given up food and all drinks and showers for weeks and would have still had this smile-

Are you ready to see another cathedral???

Are you ready to see another cathedral???

We spent the first half of the week in Paris, then took a train to Nice for the remainder of our honeymoon.

And somewhere between getting married, being in Europe, and seeing so many new things Р I decieded t oget my hair cut by a man that did not speak any English and smelled strongly of espresso and chocolate.

It truly was a wonderful trip.

Hair cut! This is in Nice.

Hair cut! This is in Nice.

I am wearing the dress he bought me for the honeymoon in this picture. I felt extremely posh prancing around in this with my new haircut.

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More to come this week….. XoXo

 

Sincerely,

Mr. Speedy’s WIFE

Musee Rodin! This was my favorite place.

Musee Rodin! This was my favorite place.

 

Timeline of Love

I am getting married tomorrow.

timeline

Mr. Speedy and I  have been together for just less than two years.

So much has happened.

We met.
We swooned.
We immediately fell into a love that kind of roots itself to the inner core of your being and constantly grows.
We had our first date that ended with such a passionate make-out, just thinking about it makes me sweat.
We continued seeing each other, every day.
We ran.
We traveled.
We laughed.
We enjoyed life in a new way- with each other.

After 4 months, Mr. Speedy started saving for an engagement ring.
Less than a year together, he asked me to be his wife.
And now, we are getting married.

Family is arriving from out of town. Friends are flying in. It really is quite remarkable the amount of support we have been given.

Yesterday was a whirlwind of running around, delivering everything to the reception hall, and getting my manly eyebrows waxed (I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER).

Mr. Speedy’s sister spent the day at my parents MAKING the wedding cake. It is lemon flavored and I think she zested like 46 lemons. Have I mentioned how amazing she is? Really. She puts any baking I have done to shame. What a selfless lady.

Actually, there have been a lot of selfless and helpful people making our wedding come together. Mr. Speedy’s other sister is a hairdresser and is doing the mothers do’s, along with the flower girls. My cousin figured out how to sew an extra piece of elastic to hold in my headpiece. My Aunt helped me with all my tulle cutting and a friend helped me sort. My parents have always been there for me, letting me bounce ideas off of them and assisted with the seating chart. My co-workers are amazing and helped with the centerpieces and one made the card box-

Today, my plans are to go get a hard work out done, get my nails painted, complete packing for mystery honeymoon, pick up my dress and then check into the hotel. The rehearsal begins at 6pm then dinner afterwards (Mr. Speedy’s parents are hosting it!), and then we all go back to the hotel for the night. Mr. Speedy and I are keeping it very traditional and staying in separate suites and not seeing each other until the ceremony.

Tonight will be a big reunion with my girlfriends. My three girls in the wedding will be sleeping in the suite with me, but  Brittany and Megan and two of my girlfriends will be visiting too. I am excited- I already have plastic champagne glasses and champagne packed! Hopefully I stay away past 9 pm.

I know that tomorrow will go by so quickly that it’ll be a blur.

But there is a moment that is on constant repeat in my mind that I hope I can remember every single sweet second and always conjure up in my mind.

It’ll be that moment the cathedral doors open and I lo ck eyes with Mr. Speedy, walking down the aisle with my Dad. It’ll be that moment that the ceremony starts and we are about to start our marriage. That moment we finally are together after much anticipation and prep. That moment he finally sees me, not as his fiance or girlfriend, but as his wife.

And then after that… life with him. I am excited to just be married and fall into a rhythm that works for both of us and pursuing things we want to do. I am excited to start a family. I am excited to have Mr. Speedy as my husband and life-long companion.

I am excited for forever with him despite the fact that forever always seems to short with him.

We were stuck staring at each other.

We were stuck staring at each other.

Goodbye Blogging world for a bit…. I will return to you as one happily married gal who just went on a honeymoon… to somewhere !

Sincerely,

Very-Almost-Married-Lily

This is the cathedral where we are getting married.

This is the cathedral where we are getting married. (Photo credit: jlbweddings )

If you are free tomorrow at 3pm, please say a short prayer…. that I don’t trip or cry too much. KIDDING. We will be starting our marriage ceremony at that time at the Cathedral of the Most Blessed Sacrament. It is a gorgeous, awe-filling space.

But really, pray that I don’t trip.

Rehearsal Invitations: DIY

I made my own rehearsal invitations and by golly, they were pretty spectacular.

They were fairly easy to make and I tried to maintain the Art Deco theme- using certain fonts and a deco arch printed paper for the belly bands.

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Soooo pretty.

All together I made 25 invitations and it cost around $20 ($12 for the blank paper/envelopes, $6.50 for the special Deco printed paper). I had access to a laser printer (so that was free!) and a paper cutter (free!) and already had all the stamps and tools for embossing (free! except for when I bought it all).

The first step was designing my invitation. The paper is from Paper Source and they have templates that you can download (here) for free, based off what kind of paper you got. This made it SUPER easy. Just download the size you need, open in Microsoft Word (or whatever program you prefer) and start designing!

Then I found the paper I wanted for the belly bands. Embossed accents were added (with the help of my girlfriend, I stamped and she poured the powder), making the invitations just a little extra glamorous and elegant:

The belly bands- I just measured how wide I wanted them and sliced the paper. Then I snipped away along the top deco arch, to really make the scallop pattern pop. Wrap around the invitaiton and tape together in the back. Simple. Done. Stunning.

I love the scallop!

I love the scallop!

Good thing about doing this yourself:

  • Cheap- they did not cost a lot but have a high quality/formal look!
  • They were made with love – really I poured my time and love and heart and soul into these.
  • Paper cutter-¬†Who doesn’t love using one of these bad boys? Makes me feel like I’m slicing meat¬†at a deli… except it is shimmery and gold and not smelly.

Bad thing about doing this yourself:

  • I want to make belly bands for everything.
  • I want to emboss all future cards.
  • I want to buy a really nice laser printer.
  • I basically want to just make cards all day, everyday.

If anyone needs any custom invitaitons, please, may I help? You can feed my thirst to create more frilly things and give me an excuse to keep using the paper cutter.

Sincerely,

Lily

Ten Things (actually, eleven)

Art deco bride.

Art deco bride.

1. I had my second dress fitting while simultaneously getting my you-know-what.

Dear Period- Hi. I am so glad you visited because a) I officially will not be a pregnant bride, something that I have had nightmares about and b) you will not be around during my wedding day or honeymoon week. BUT SERIOUSLY. WHY MUST YOU VISIT ME WHEN I HAVE TO PUT ON MY DRESS IN FRONT OF STRANGERS AND BE POKED WITH SEWING NEEDLES. YOU ARE RUTHLESS. YOU ARE INCONSIDERATE.

Have you no mercy?

2. I painted my nails a deep red wine color, a possible choice for the wedding.

When I asked Mr. Speedy what he thought, his exact response was “Isn’t that a little drab and dark for a wedding?”

Obviously, he does not understand my vintage look.

3. Velcro wallets = never a good thing.

No.

No.

Recently, my girlfriend went on a few dates with a guy and he had a Velcro wallet. Let me just throw this out there- men, do not ever own a Velcro wallet if you are above the age of 18. I cringe at the thought of having a date offer to pay, pull out his wallet, and then hearing that crrrrrrink of Velcro being pulled apart.

Obviously, she is not dating him anymore.

4. Mr. Speedy was stretching the other day, and flexed his arms over his head and I about fell out of my chair.

With the wedding so close and so much to do, I haven’t had time to stare and drool and study Mr. Speedy to the sickening level of devotion and obsession that I normally do. I caught a glimpse of his arms and got all the breath knocked out of me.

“Wow,” I exclaimed. “Your arms…. have you been working out more?”
“No, they are the same.”
“No, I am pretty sure your muscles are currently occupying more space and taking over my brain.”

He did not respond.

I truly appreciate how he puts up with my clingy-creepy stares.
Thank you, Mr. Speedy, for accepting this as a way of life.

5. Speaking of muscles, these legs are my favorite.

Mhhmmmm these legs.

Mhhmmmm these legs.

6. I have been awkwardly crying and proclaiming to strangers that I am changing my last name soon.

I have been having a lot of word-vomit moments lately where I just spew out random things to random people that probably could care less. I have also been getting teary-eyed while doing things that involve my last name. And by things, I mean like signing my bill.

For example, whenever I get to sign my bill or someone uses my last name, I have been saying things like this:

“Soon, I will not be signing this last name ever again.”
“Oh gosh… so soon it will be gone.” TEARS.
“I will not have this name much longer.” TEARS.
“I need to practice signing my new last name.”
“I am sorry, I am a little emotional about this name.” TEARS.

7. Oh gosh, my last name. Goodbye. Goodbye tiny Lily who sat in buckets. I might be crying right now. 

I really am quite the worker. Promise.

I really am quite the worker. Promise.

8. I think I am going to drink an entire bottle of this Sleep mist.

Buy this for anyone, they are sure to love it. Who doesn't like to relax and sleep???

Buy this for anyone, they are sure to love it. Who doesn’t like to relax and sleep???

Surely, this will cause me to sleep better and calm down.

9. Please remind me to not drink bottles that have the word sleep on them. 

10. My Pirate Father has a speech to write.

When I asked my father if he was preparing for his speech at the wedding, his response was –

“What speech? Do people even do that anymore?”

Fathers are really funny sometimes. They like to joke at you when you are full of tension and stress.

11. This picture really calms me down. And makes me feel gooey and happy and completely content.

Just engaged.

Just engaged.

I am just going to stare at this picture for the next two weeks.

Sincerely,

Lily

Almost Married = Busy, Busy

Three weeks.

Three weeks is all the stands between me and my new life.
I will go from fiance to wife in a matter of seconds.
I will lose my current last name, and gain Mr. Speedy’s.
I will make a promise, an engagement, into a lifetime commitment.
I will be one part of a two part new family.

Serious vogue faces.

Serious vogue faces.

I have done quite a bit to prepare for March 28th, but I still have the following to scratch off my list:

  • Bikini Wax: To do or not to do? Frankly, I have been debating this for months and I still don’t know if I should take the plunge or not.
  • My wedding ring: Next week, I shall go to the jeweler and leave them with my engagement ring so they can make a band that perfectly matches. This is kind of important. Kind of need this done. I already have Mr. Speedy’s boxed up and ready to go.
  • Do not lose weight: When I get busy or stressed, I have a tendency to eat less and less. My dress is getting fitted ¬†to my current bod. Mr. Speedy doesn’t want me any smaller and I don’t want the dress falling off of me. No weight losing is allowed.
  • Beauty regimen: My feet are SCALY LIKE A DRIED UP FISH. Seriously. I am trying really hard to put thick lotion on them every night. This is my main beauty regimen.
  • Coordinate deliveries, finalize reception layout, decor: Ugh…… I am trying not to think about this one too much.
  • Coordinate day of meals: I will be in a hotel suite with my ladies. We will probably be hungry. So far I have mimosas on my list of foods. I should probably work on this.
  • Prepare for visitors!¬†I am just so excited for all the family and friends that are coming into town… I have to mentally prepare my heart and mind for all the visiting. I cannot wait. Mr. Speedy’s family will be here from NE, along with his dear Aunt and Uncle from TX, friends from Iowa, CA, IN, DC, WA, VA… all over. I am beyond excited to see everyone. It is like the best reunion ever.
  • Memorize my vows:¬†If I can memorize the alphabet, I can memorize my vows…. right??? Every time I practice them, I start crying and my heart squeezes up like I am sprinting in a race. I need to learn how to say them c-a-l-m-l-y.
  • Hair Trial:¬†I am doing this on Saturday! I already had one but it did not turn out…. so we are trying it again! If it doesn’t work, I’ll just wear this hat-
So chic.

So chic.

I am getting very curious about what guests are wearing to the wedding…. since it is 1920’s theme, I am sure (and hoping!) there will be lots of pearls, feathers, glitz, tuxes, top hats, and canes. It is also black tie optional, so very formal. I am really excited to see what people wear and how they accessorize. Our entire wedding party will have these 20’s accessories, so no one will be out of place — it’ll be such a roaring good time (so corny, I KNOW)!

In OTHER news, I got Achilles tendinitis about a month ago which really threw me off. Running kind of keeps me balanced and happy and sane and focused. But, I have been healing and biking (very different from running!). Biking is a good workout but it certainly makes one’s butt super sore! I am not sure how my marathon training will be once I start running more… but I am trying not to even think or stress about that at the moment. Marriage is my #1 thought and my marathon just might have to take a back seat for a while.

I have book club this weekend – we read the Divergent trilogy. Has anyone else read these books?? I am excited to get together with the club, eat some food, wine it up, and discuss what faction we would be in and how Tris and Tobias are probably not the greatest couple and should just break up and date other people.

I have a few blogs written… to make myself more visible the next few weeks! So bear with me, they are very wedding-related!

Sincerely,

Almost-Married-Lily

WINNER of knitted headband & some Fabulous news!

If you entered the contest, I have to say first thank you and second, your comments made me warm and want to immediately bundle up in every heavy clothing item I own.

But I didn’t because then I’d look like Randy:

“Raaaaalphieeeeeee!”

So, what is the most popular item to keep warm?

Here is a chart with answers…. scarves were a big hit:

Car Seat Warmer… Love that one. A warm butt is a happy person!

Anyways, I selected the winner using a random generator….

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Do you like my deco font? I'm Gatsby-crazed.

Do you like my deco font? I’m Gatsby-crazed.

Suzie¬†H. is zee winner! And I obviously have Art Deco on the brain and had to type her name in Gatsby font…. ANYWAYS, congrats ! A new knitted headband will be coming your way!

Now for some fabulous news…. I bought these headbands at a whimsical, unique store Catching Fireflies.¬†They have three shops in Michigan – located in Ann Arbor, Berkley, and Rochester.

That last store is where I shop at and they were hiring for holiday help and well, I’m going to work there this holiday. I am very excited. A little extra money for the wedding¬†and¬†I can’t wait to help defend the amazing-ness of the knitted headband, set up displays of scented soaps and pretty jewelry, and gift wrap presents. SO PUMPED. They also have a hot chocolate station IN THE STORE, so hopefully I don’t burn my tongue or drink myself into a chocolate coma. Tempting.

If you live in this area, you should TOTALLY check out this store! Perfect for finding gifts for anyone or a little treat for yourself ūüôā

Happy Saturday- I am working on wedding things today…. that involve wine bottles and lots (LIKE A LOT) of¬†feathers.

Sincerely,

Lily

Running, Showers, and Wine!

UM HI.
Sorry I haven’t blogged in a million years… I’ll catch you all up to speed with my life in a short and sweet numbered list.

Here it goes:

1. GOTR started:¬†Maybe this is why I have found it difficult to attempt to blog during the week… training a mob of 3rd graders to run and race around cones is not easy. Especially¬†when you accidentally forget their snack in your work fridge and they all turn against you and decide that they need a snack in order to listen.

Tip: Do not EVER forget the snack when dealing with children. It basically makes you the worst-person-ever.

2. Bridal shower in NE: My darling fiance and I, along with my mother and brother, piled into a car and made the 12 hour trip. This is me about 23 minutes into the trip:

LET ME OUTTTTTT

LET ME OUTTTTTT

Below is a picture of us, after we arrived-ran-showered, ready for our guests to arrive. I wore a new dress specifically for the occasion that was bridal-like and fluffy on the bottom. I felt like a tall cupcake with brown icing flowing down my head:

Deco couple of running loooove.

Deco couple of running loooove.

The table was deco!

OH My... how amazing is this? His mom and sisters are the best!

OH My… how amazing is this? His mom and sisters are the best!

3. I need to learn how to open presents without awkward faces. Please look:

I am so weird. He is so handsome.

I am so weird. He is so handsome.

Seriously, why am I so weird? Like this next picture, apparently I thought it was time to be a flamingo:

"Hiiiii I luvz youuuuuu."

“Hiiiii¬†I luvz¬†youuuuuu.”

The right couple is Mr. Speedy’s sister and her husband. They are super cute! And she is one-heck of a fit lady…. she teaches Jazzercise which we did the next morning and I almost knocked myself out while attempting the moves.

I have no dancing skills whatsoever.

4. She also cut my hair ! And waxed my eyebrows so I was not beast-like.

My mom took this pic! Sneaky!

My mom took this pic! Sneaky!

5. The way home from NE was the ride from HELL. The 12 hour drive turned into 17 hours because of the following:

  • Rainy weather: Everyone was sliding and driving 40 mph.
  • Traffic: It was everywhere.
  • Mr. Speedy puked¬†consistently between IL and MI: My poor love got food poisoning at a diner. I can honestly say there is nothing worse than seeing the love-of-your-life on all fours on the side of the expressway, getting drenched in rain, puking¬†up his guts. Ughhhhhh.

6. Mr. Speedy and I like going in our hot tub:

BAHAHAHAHAH

BAHAHAHAHAH

7. Last week at work, Jimmy Johns gave one of my co-workers 60 (SIXTY) samples. It was amazing. I ate 8 and stashed 5 more. Hehehe:

Best co-worker everrrrrr.

Best co-worker everrrrrr.

8. I have two awesome pen pals¬†who are also my awesome blogger friends who will be coming to my wedding. In celebration of all of this, I made them something special and they will get it shortly in the mail!!! Ekkkkk¬†I love pen pals! Brittany and Megan rock (and I’m sorry this ruins the surprise):

Pen pal packages!

Pen pal packages!

I have been practicing my fancy writing… kind of looks Halloweenish though:

Yikes. Maybe I won't address the wedding invites?

Yikes. Maybe I won’t address the wedding invites?

9. It is FALL…. and I am getting paler by the second and my hair is turning black. By the time of the wedding, I will be a glowing worm of a woman:

Ghost? Yes.

Ghost? Yes.

10. Speaking of wedding, I did some planning this weekend with my Mother and Sister. And then we drank wineeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:

I love her. She is the best!

I love her. She is the best!

This next picture truly shows that I am not the only one that takes awkward pictures-  my sister has that trait too:

WHAT IS GOING ON.

WHAT IS GOING ON.

In conclusion, life is great, wine is sweet, and I need to learn how to smile properly.

Sincerely,

Awkward Lily

The Wedding Dress

I found my wedding dress.

But not the traditional way- let me explain…

Are you familiar with the scene in Sex and the City (the movie) when SJP shocks Charlotte and the wedding planner by proclaiming that she already found her outfit for her wedding.

No label. Vintage. Simple.

And they gasp. “What?! No Label? The bride wore a dress by… no one.”

But SJP loves her choice. She sticks to her fashion choice and is happy with it- it is simple. Classic. And romantic. Just like her and Big.

Mr. Big = Mr. Speedy. But Mr. Speedy is cuter.

Mr. Big = Mr. Speedy. But Mr. Speedy is cuter.

That is what I did. I mean, kind of.

“Do you want to go shopping soon for your dress?” my girlfriend asked.
“Oh no, I already bought it,” I responded.
“WHAT. WHATTTTTTT. You already BOUGHT your dress?”
“Yes,” I replied with a smirk.
“When? How? We didn’t even go shopping!?” my friend shouted.
“I found it online. It was a steal and well, I put it in my cart and clicked BUY.”

Her mouth dropped wide open and her face was a mixed of nervous excitement and pure confusion.

I wasn’t planning on finding a wedding dress via the internet on a random Monday evening with only my brother, Louis, at home for opinions.
But somehow, that is how it happened.
And somehow, it worked out.

Four quick days later, it arrived at my doorstep. But because I live in a house with Pirate-people that snatch mail, I did not locate the box until today, 5 days after it’s arrival (someone strategically hid it in the dining room). Quickly, my mother (who had just got out of the pool and was in her suit) and I ran up to her room to try it on.

We opened up the box, holding our breaths. A million questions buzzed in my head – would this look like the picture? What if it got damaged? What if it looks horrible on me? I pulled back the fire red tissue paper and squealed with excitement- it looked perfect. PERFECT.

With her help, we slipped it over my head and I didn’t even need a mirror to conclude it looked beautiful- my Mom had tears forming.

“Oh…. it is beyond stunning, Lillian. It is just beyond anything.”

As I peeked in the mirror and caught a glimpse of myself and thought of Mr. Speedy, I started to cry. I didn’t even have to look at it fully- it just felt different than anything I had ever tried on. I felt different. Changed.

And then Pirate wandered into the bedroom, in his bathing suit (EVERYONE IS ALWAYS IN A BATHING SUIT), and had slight tears in his eyes too.

SO…. What does it look like?

WELL I CAN’T TELL YOU ANYTHING ABOUT THE WAY IT LOOKS BECAUSE MR. SPEEDY READS THIS.

But I can tell you this-

  • It was less than $400. YEAH THAT IS RIGHT. LADIES YOU CAN FIND A DRESS FOR A REASONABLE PRICE.
  • It is not your typical wedding dress but once you see it, you will think ‘Oh that is such a pretty wedding dress!’
  • It does not require me to having any assistance while peeing. This is wonderful because I pee often.
  • It is made of THIS and THAT and has THIS and THAT on it and THAT (so vague, I know).
  • It suits our wedding theme – the 1920s. Think vintage. Think Gatsby. Think Art Deco. Think Glitz. Think Atonement. I love that movie. Sheesh!
We will be chanelling these two for our wedding and pretending to be like them. Minus the whole going to jail and war and dying in a tunnel.

We will be channelling these two for our wedding and pretending to be like them. Minus the whole going to jail and war and dying in a tunnel.

And since I spend a whopping $388 (that includes tax, shipping) on my dress, that means I can now SPLURGE on MR SPEEDY even MORE.

And I might even pay someone decent to wax my eyebrows so they aren’t burnt. I need to figure out accessories-¬†full veil? No veil? Shoes? Of course I’ll wear shoes, but what kind? Drop earrings? There is so much accessorizing!

This whole wedding thing, it is not as complicated as you think.

YOMO.

Sincerely,

Bride-to-be-with-a-dress